So I just read an article about divorce parties. And then I read the comments.
I hate comments- not from you guys- but on public forums.
Everyone is always so nasty and judgmental.
The general gist was:
- the women who had the parties were selfish bitches
- how dare you celebrate divorce, its sacred!
- how dare you celebrate a divorce, what about the kids?
- if you throw a divorce party you are narcissistic and the entire reason the marriage failed
- how dare you celebrate divorce, its sad
- how dare you celebrate a failure!
- ya, she’s celebrating cause she got everything!
Should I go on?
I wish I’d had a divorce party! I think its a great idea.
Did I get married thinking I could just leave? No.
Did I want a divorce? No.
Did the marriage fail? Yes.
Did I fail? NO
When I finally got the divorce did I feel like celebrating? Hell Yes.
Was I celebrating the failure? NO.
I was celebrating life- I was celebrating the fact that I’d walked away a better stronger person. I was triumphant in myself! And life was full of possibilities.
I had just had years of misery and I was celebrating the end of misery! I was celebrating the fact that I was okay and myself!
Why would a party to celebrate all of those good things that came out of it have been wrong?
If you’d like the read the article, HERE is the link.
#1 by Mindy on March 19, 2008 - 1:19 am
I don’t read the comments on most of the blogs I read. I think sometimes people try to be ignorant, or maybe they really don’t get the point. I have to admit, that sometimes the humor or the tone of a blog doesn’t come off well simply because it’s written and not spoken. Inflection can make all the difference. But, yeah. If you want a freakin’ divorce party, who’s business is it? Maybe it’s the power of telling someone what to do through the safety of an anonymous blog post. Man, I am long winded tonight.
#2 by Digits on March 19, 2008 - 12:51 pm
I’m totally cool- I did buy a bottle of champagne, so that was fun. I was just so shocked by those comments! I thought it was a neat idea myself.
#3 by Zuper Zee on March 19, 2008 - 5:08 pm
Yea people tend to be very harsh and judgmental in their comments. Not at all nice…